Thousands of people seek their perfect mate. You hear so many people, men and women, lament that they have not found that perfect mate.
We want different partners at different times in order to allow us to feel many different emotions. Right now you may want someone who looks sexually attractive and is good in bed, who others will also find desirable and attractive.
Here and now that is great, but they probably will not make a long term partner .You will change and so will they, can you grow together and make changes?
The problem with relationships is that we usually don’t give them much thought and be selective and choose the type of person we want to get inmate with and share parts of our life with.
We also give very little thought to who we have to become. For a short term relationship this is not a problem however, for longer ones we have some thinking and soul searching to do. Well at least if we want great ones.
FIND YOURSELF
Before looking for the perfect mate, you should ask yourself a series of questions. Your answers will lead you to a more concrete idea of what is best for you. Sometimes what we want and what we need don’t match.
Once you can identify your beliefs and how they shape your life, you can understand yourself better.
1-Do you believe you deserve the best?
Having a low self-esteem will only attract people who will keep you down and need to feed of your insecurity to make themselves feel superior. So work on your self-esteem, believe in yourself, believe you deserve the best and you will attract the BEST!
2- Do you love yourself?
People will treat you the way you treat yourself. The more highly you think of yourself the higher your expectations will be.
3- When it comes to finding a partner, are you a believer or a big planner?
Make a list of 3 main relationships you have had in your life, think about how you met and where.
Think about the probabilities involved in you having met that person at that time in your life.
It happened before, it can happen again.
4- Do your beliefs play a role in finding your perfect mate?
Do you trust in God, the Laws Of The Universe, your fate or just yourself? Are you relaxed about the situation or desperate?
Trusting in something else other than yourself, as a first step, will make the process more positive.
5- Are you enjoying your life?
True happiness is a “state of mind” not determined by external circumstances. The happier you are the more people will be attracted to you and want to spend time with you.
6- Are you in your “Seven Year Itch”?
It is called “The seven year itch” because every 7 years we go through major changes. Think about your past relationships, where would you be today if you had stayed together? You might not be going anywhere…
Being single gives you the chance to find and redefine yourself, quantity your values and determine what you do and don’t want from a relationship. In order to receive something bi g we need to create space for it. Your perfect mate should fill the void that is there, without the void there is nothing for them to move into and fill, so live in positive expectations.
No one is perfect and everyone is perfect, having a lasting relationship requires give and take, and a lot of love and a bit of lust.
Before you think about finding your perfect mate, find yourself. Finding yourself means, getting to a place where you are happy and positive about life, without thinking negatively about your lack of romantic action.
It starts with you, don’t look for a partner to complete your life, a partner should enhance it. And don’t get desperate. Just be yourself and enjoy life.
7- What do you have to offer to your perfect mate?
Finding an ideal mate starts with us knowing what we want and being the best that we can be ourselves.
Have an idea about the sort of person you would like to be with, don’t sell yourself short. Be open with the right people and let them know that you’re looking for a relationship with the right person. Smile and enjoy the process of finding your perfect mate.
And when you find the right person, trust nature and don’t try to change anything…Just be yourself!
In the next article, we will talk about how and where to look for your ideal mate.
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